self-care, self-compassion

My Best Advice for Bad Days

Sometimes, I need to take it back to the very basics. I mean super basics. Because I tend to get lost in the shuffle and lose my way. And those are the days that I need to keep it simple.

My keeping it simple looks like this:

Set an alarm and get the hell up and out of bed. On the really bad days, I’m always surprised at how hard a task this simple can actually be.

Once you’re up and moving about, take a long shower. Wash away those negative thoughts and feelings with a fresh smelling soap and shampoo. Rinse and repeat and you’ll be surprised at how much better you can feel emotionally once you’re physically well cared for.

Take time to find clothes that are soft and soothing. Now is not the time to go all out with heels and bobbles. Keep it soft and cozy and wrap yourself in things that bring you comfort while you’re bouncing back to the you that you know and love.

Listen to uplifting and encouraging music or a podcast. Keep it positive and light, bright and happy.

Eat the cake. Or the carbs. Whatever works. Nourish and indulge and embrace the comfort food as you care for you.

Take time to breathe. Really breathe and be in the moment. We can’t change the past or the future and worry does no one any good at all.

What are your self-care tips for the really bad days? What works for you and helps you love yourself through it? I’d love to hear your ideas.

In the mean time, take care of you.

Always,

self-care, self-compassion

It’s Probably Hard to Be My Kids

I came to this grand conclusion this week.

I’m aware that I’m loud, awkward and extra.

That’s probably a hard reality for my kids who are currently teenagers.

But they’ve never known me any other way.

For all of my flaws, they know without a shadow of a doubt that they get all of me — always.

I probably over share. I’m probably too vocal about so many things. But they will never have to question where they stand or wonder what I’m thinking. They know that I will always keep it real. Authenticity is my thing and I don’t hide my mistakes from them. They know that I’m learning as I go. And my hope is that that will give them permission to be flawed and fabulous and beautiful souls walking this earth, too.

I don’t want them to ever have the thought “oh, shit. What’s Mom gonna do?”. I don’t want them to fear being real and sometimes broken or overwhelmed or stressed because my goal is to always be their soft place to land. That’s not to say that I don’t correct them and lose my patience with them when they do things that are not so great; I will always be their Momma and my job is also to guide them and let them know when they’ve gone astray and help them back in the right direction.

But my love never waivers. Not for a single minute. Not ever even for a moment.

They get the best of me and I’m so proud of the young human beings that they are growing into.

Always,

xoxo

self-compassion

Writing my Way Forward

Writing has become my own personal therapy. My new best friend. My person who will listen without judgement. My true ride or die. I’ve learned that I have to be all of these things for myself because others who promised they’d never leave and would be with me “all the days no matter what” have gone.

I write to feel heard. I write to make sense of the chaos and to understand and to be understood.

I write and I share and I try make sense of the things that I struggle with and I hope that my story resonates with others who have similar struggles.

I hope you know you’re not alone and I hope you know that there are people in the same boat — just different bodies of water; in different places with different destinations.

Keep rowing your boat. Rest when you need to but keep going.

All the love. All the days.

xoxo

Spring 2019, Uncategorized

What I’m LOVING Spring 2019 Edition

Friends! In an effort to get us all Spring Ready and FABULOUS I reached out to my friend and fellow blogger extraordinaire, Jennifer McCune to have her share some of her most helpful tips for skin care. I’m so excited to share her recommendations and tools of the trade that she swears by. And, be sure to check out her blog, Mompreneur Next Door.

P.s the pictures above are Jennifer’s own from 2007 to 2015 and those results?! Wow!

Ah, spring! The time of year when we get outside more and show off our gorgeous skin! So of course it’s also the best time of year to think of how best to take care of our largest organ and feel confident with how we look.

Tip Number One – Brighten up that dull-looking winter skin by exfoliating a few times a week with a gentle exfoliant to remove that top layer of dead skin cells. Using a skin care routine that includes a gentle moisturizer, Vitamin C, Retinol and a sunscreen will help brighten up your skin and prevent future damage as well. Look for products that are meant to work together as well. If not, it’s like mixing together cinnamon and garlic. They’re both great alone but don’t work so well together.

Tip Number Two – Don’t forget those eyes! As we age, our eyes appear smaller so not only do you want to start using a good eye cream at a young age, but you also want something to enhance your lashes. Falsies can be very damaging and costly long-term, so a good serum is the easiest, healthiest and most cost-effective option.


Tip Number Three – Wear a daily sunscreen to prevent further sun damage. If you want to get a fresh-looking natural glow, try a sunless tanner and don’t forget your vitamin D.

All of these tips along with wearing a hat, drinking lots of water, and sleeping 7+ hours a night will keep you aging gracefully and feeling and looking fantastic! Remember that the best wrinkle is the one you never get!

Uncategorized

What I’m LOVING this Wednesday

What I’m LOVING this Wednesday!

Winter skin is tough! This Agave Nectar Ageless Body Oil is my new FAV for right out of the shower head to toe softness and the smell is gorgeous, too y’all. Yay! https://www.amazon.com/FarmHouse-Fresh-Agave-Nectar-Body/dp/B005HWY9CQ/ref=asc_df_B005HWY9CQ/?tag=bingshoppinga-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid={creative}&hvpos={adposition}&hvnetw=o&hvrand={random}&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl={devicemodel}&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=&hvtargid=pla-4584345016123547&psc=1

I adore candles. If ever you visit my home (come on over!) there are always, always, always candles lit all over. Snarky Lights on Etsy has this completely adorable AND sarcastic candle for those days that you need a good laugh with your candle light glow. “Your crazy is showing….” is my new favorite. https://www.snarkylights.com/listing/189374752/snarky-lights-your-crazy-is-showingyou

Hello, Rachel Hollis? I love you! Her new book came out this week and it’s pretty much available everywhere and I KNOW this is another must-read. *If you haven’t read Girl, Wash Your Face because you’ve been on another planet or something: Go. Now. Get it. I mean it. https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Stop-Apologizing-Shame-Free-Embracing/dp/1400209609

I’m a non-recovering makeup and beauty-a-holic. Not sorry. But I’m super excited to see the classic Caboodles back out in all the colors we remember from our teenage years. Love. They are everywhere, y’all.