I learned this yesterday.
While grief and pain and worry are heavy burdens to carry, especially on you’re own, so too is joy and excitement and good news.
Everyone knows and expects that the negative emotions are gonna make you feel low and weighed down. That’s why we lean on our systems of support. To lesson our load and share the weight so that our pieces of pain may feel a little less heavy to carry – even for a few moments.
That’s not to say it still doesn’t suck.
But sharing your grief, your shame, your sadness and your worry helps. Somehow, giving oxygen to what worries our hearts and minds and sharing it with another soul is soothing.
But what I didn’t realize, until yesterday, is that joy and happiness and excitement and really good news can also feel heavy and make us weighed down.
We’re meant to give oxygen to our happiness and share it as well.
The best parts of our lives are meant to be appreciated and honored with those who we love and who also love us back. Not having a system of support to help us carry the weight of really happy and good news can feel almost burdensome, too.
And that surprised me.
I’ve been grateful for the people who have been in my corner while I have weathered some horrible storms. But just as important as those who helped to carry me through the tough stuff are those who stand with me and smile and are excited for me and my happiness and my life “wins”.
I hope you have people to celebrate with.
When there’s no one to call when you’re bursting at the seams with joy, that joy can quickly feel muted or less than.
And it absolutely shouldn’t.
So find your cheerleading section, y’all. We need those people who clap for us and smile with us just as much as we need those folks who help us when we’re down.